In my clinic and my online coaching practice, I typically work with women who are trying to conceive and looking for ways to optimize their fertility naturally. However, I do also work with a lot of women who are hoping to preserve and enhance their fertility for when the time to get pregnant is right. And, with that often comes the question: Should I freeze my eggs?
There is no clear cut answer as it really depends on you and what is going to make you feel the best. As it stands in our society now, there are egg freezing clinics popping up all over and many of the Fortune 500 companies are offering to pay for the female clients to freeze their eggs.
What that translates too, in my clinical opinion, is a lot of pressure on women to freeze their eggs. Although I am thrilled to see the dialogue around fertility becoming more public, there is something bigger at play here: the underlying message surrounding fertility these days is that women should be worried about their ability to get pregnant. As a best-selling author, women's health and wellness expert and a practitioner who has worked with thousands of women who are trying to conceive, it is with strong urging that I say: We need to shift the conversation about fertility that we are currently having.
Of course, freezing eggs can be a life-changing move especially for women who have to undergo medical treatments like chemotherapy or radiation but it is no guarantee. For all the other women who are thinking about egg freezing as a form of insurance policy, I urge you to do it from a place of consciousness. By that I mean, being conscious of your fertility an extension of your overall health- mentally, emotionally, physically and nutritionally. As well, being conscious of how you are planning for your future and your future family. These are big decisions and should be taken as such. Please don't freeze your eggs from a state of panic or despair, but rather from a place of present moment awareness where you understand the pro's and con's and that freezing your eggs is not a promise of a future child.
The current conversation around egg freezing and fertility is telling women they should fear their declining fertility and with that, choosing to freeze their eggs is a measure of security. Yes, the truth is fertility challenges are epidemic and freezing eggs is an option for women to buy themselves some time. However, it's also important to keep in mind that many women are having healthy children later in life (meaning in their late 30's and early to mid 40's). When we're talking about fertility and getting pregnant (with or without frozen eggs in the bank), the focus should be more on preserving and optimizing our health and our fertility AND on what you can do now to maximize your chances of getting pregnant when you want to.
If you are considering freezing your eggs, there are many things you should do to ensure you get the best results possible.
- Don't go into debt over it
- Take it very seriously and prep your body for 3 months prior to the process by following the protocols I have outline in my best-selling book, Yes, You Can Get Pregnant
- Do it from a place of peace and ease versus desperation and stress
- Understand your fertility is an extension of your health
- Know that your fertility markers (I.e AMH and FSH) are NOT set in stone and change all the time; don't let these numbers become your identity